Have you ever had this experience? You were having the most awful, terrible day and a stranger does something kind, and it nearly brings you to tears.
Maybe they wave you on instead of honking when you cut them off in traffic. Or maybe you get to the front of the coffee line to find the guy in front of you already paid for your drink.
And in the midst of your total misery, this total stranger has done you a good turn. And it means the world. Reading Maggie Smith’s new book Keep Moving feels kind of like that. It is a meditation on kindness and hope, and how to move forward through grief.
Smith says she started writing the book as her marriage was ending. “Keep Moving began as sort of ‘notes to self’ that I wrote for myself each day to pep-talk myself through this really dark time. And I posted them on Twitter as a way to hold myself accountable and to sort of share my struggle with others. And a couple of surprising things happened because of those tweets. I found my way into a new kind of optimism that I hadn’t experienced before, and I found that the posts were really meeting people where they were in their lives at that time, too.”
On writing the book she needed to read herself
Other people can tell you, in hard times, “You’re going to be fine.” But if you’re not telling yourself that, sometimes it’s hard to believe. And I think one of the things I realized when writing this book is the most important conversation that you have each day is the one you have with yourself. And if that’s not a kind and gentle, sort of brave-making conversation, then what other people are telling us sort of slips off of us.
On trusting that the present moment has something to teach you
I think in some ways this really summarizes what what I was trying to do with the book, which is to think about reimagining my life at a time where I thought it was over. You know, it felt like a catastrophic change. If I imagined a Venn diagram of emotions, I think my feelings was sort of that spot where fear and sadness and anger and confusion overlap. It’s not a good Venn diagram … And I think we are all feeling a lot of that now because of the pandemic, because of so much unrest in this country and in the world. And we have to think about, not the life that we had last year, but thinking about what the life we have now still offers us, and what is still possible